Getting Through Father's Day without Dad
When Father’s Day is approaching, and your dad is not around for any number of reasons, it can be incredibly painful. Many on our team here at Downing & Lahey Mortuaries and Crematory know exactly what this feels like.
Whether you’ve lost your father to death or estrangement, or are unable to get together due to pandemic-related restrictions, a sense of grief and unmet expectations threatens to descend like a dark cloud.
You brace yourself preparing for the rush of “Love You Dad” social media posts and advertisements. You find yourself envying those who have a close relationship with their own father. Your mind drifts to what might have been if life had turned out differently.
This June, more of our Wichita neighbors than ever are feeling the ache of separation. That’s why we want to ask this question: If your father was with you, what would he want you to do on Father’s Day? Even in the midst of so much uncertainty, even as you’re unable to go about your “normal” routine, what would your dad say to you right now about how to spend your day?
If you’re a father yourself, he would likely hope you’d enjoy your own children, letting them celebrate you.
If you have a favorite meal, he might say, “Make it!” A favorite coffee, “Drink it!” A restaurant you’ve heard good things about, “Try it!”
If you gain a sense of peace while spending time in nature, he’d want you to take advantage of summertime in Wichita and head outside.
If you have special people in your life, he might encourage you to reach out to them. You’ll be surprised how a good old-fashioned phone call can put a smile on your face.
At Downing & Lahey Mortuaries & Crematory, we spend our days talking with those who have lost loved ones. We understand the importance of moving throught grief – not avoiding it, ignoring it, or distracting yourself with busyness. This Father’s Day, we encourage you to move toward those who love and support you. It’s tempting – especially right now – to isolate. But it’s never been more important to connect.
Take this as an opportunity to acknowledge your feelings – even the uncomfortable emotions that catch you off guard.
Think about what your dad would say to you. Minute by minute, hour by hour, Father’s Day will come to a close. It’s our hope that you’re able to celebrate his memory, his legacy, and who are you because of him.
During this difficult time, remember that our professional team is available 24/7. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We are always here for our Wichita community.