Even living in the beautiful state of Kansas, the winter months can get a little hard and maybe even depressing, as the days get shorter and the temperature dips. This can be even more true if you’ve recently lost a loved one.
At Downing & Lahey Mortuaries & Crematory, we know how important it is to try and keep your spirits up, and there are many ways you can do so, even amid your grief. As much as you can, try get outside and get a little sunshine and exercise. If it’s simply too chilly for you, invite a friend or family member over to watch old movies or play a favorite board game. Ask your grandkids over to make your favorite oatmeal raisin cookies or build a fire to roast marshmallows.
When you’re tempted to dwell on the winter blues or on your loss, try to focus on all of the wonderful things you have in your life – it is true what they say, no matter how bad it gets, there is always something to be thankful for. A lot of the families we serve in East and West Wichita find that a gratitude journal becomes helpful to them in darker moments.
Finally, continually make plans and schedule outings for yourself. As busy holiday schedules are ramping down here in the New Year, it’s the perfect time to start a weekly poker game with your neighbors or host a dinner party with friends every Monday evening. This will also give you something to look forward to, and you won’t find yourself sitting home alone. And you never know – that friend or neighbor might be having some winter blues themselves. Your invitation could be just what the doctor ordered.
Most of all, remember you’re never alone in your loneliness or grief. At Downing & Lahey, we are always here for you. We believe that our care for you and responsibility to you does not end when the funeral service is over. We can offer you a number resources for emotional support. This includes our “GriefWords” online library, filled with short articles covering many topics to help those who lost a loved one. These articles are written by esteemed grief counselor Dr. Alan Wolfelt, and are sure to offer comfort and support when you need it most. We can also make referrals to support groups and grief counselors to provide the help they need.